Are you one of those unlucky people who like me used to fail every time in receiving compliments. I remember I used to shrug my shoulders in surprise as if the compliment had no worth or just giggle in embarrassment.
Of course hindsight is a wonderful thing and often with consequences, but so necessary when trying to find out who you really are and to know yourself totally.
One of the things that often comes out is that we need to look very carefully at our feelings to find our true beliefs and despite our natural protestations to the contrary we can easily feel unworthy.
I have to say that it took me a long time to learn how to accept a compliment due always in my youth to being told my opinion did not matter, it was invariably wrong or that others knew best.
In my experience feeling unworthy of so many aspects of life or others in our lives is one of the hardest personal barriers to overcome.
We can even inflict upon ourselves conditions which others will rush to cure or at least attend to in order to allow us to feel worthy of their love, attention and care once again. They of course think we are genuinely in pain, and so we may be, but what they will not realise is that the pain is self inflicted.
You know there is a famous saying:
‘There are none so deaf as those who do not want to hear!’
Many of us can even hide the reasons from ourselves and would certainly not subscribe to the notion that anything was self inflicted. That includes anything from a simple pain, which may not be what it seems, from not wanting to do something, as above the pain that encourages others to care for us and even a life threatening condition.
The trouble is that many of us have still not learnt how to accept!
From accepting a set of circumstances that prevent us from doing what we want to do in the physical world and culture in which we live, a simple spiritual truth to a generous compliment.
There is a lot to be said for acceptance.
Conversely pitting yourself against the status quo over which you have no control, to the gift of life itself and the existence of a power higher than ourselves to the love, care and compliments of others gets you nowhere at all. It just fills you full of angst, disappointment or hatred.
Accepting on the other hand allows a level of consciousness to exist within you, which I can best explain as Gratitude, to alter your whole outlook on life.
Most of us, and I am no exception, go through life believing that there must be something that I need to do! Some were told when young that they were lazy and others just have an inherent longing to be of service or just to help others.
In truth we tend to forget what I love to call, “The Prime Directive” that we must always try our utmost to be happy!
I have never understood how the medical profession insists on fighting disease in concentrating on symptoms without getting to the root cause, and I use the term advisedly since the whole of the energy system of the body relies on a balanced, strong and stable root or Base Chakra upon which the other six or the rest rely.
Fighting gets you nowhere at all, no one wins except the ones who provide the ammunition whether it be fierce argument, drugs or bullets. As we know there are those who believe that winning is all that matters at any cost.
But it depends on your level of consciousness as to how you win and I believe that the only way to win is in acceptance of the journey and gratitude for the experience bringing you to the level of conscious happiness.
With Love from Hanukah & the Angel