Or POSITIVE v NEGATIVE. What’s the difference?
The difference is difficult for many to understand. ‘You are so negative’ is the frequent cry and the reply, ‘No I’m not!’ ensures that you are both in a state of disallowing your Well-being! Why? Because you are both in the midst of an argument. How negative is that?
It therefore implies that we also need to understand Well-being:
You can no doubt appreciate that being in a state of gratitude is a positive state of mind and that happiness must surely constitute a level of consciousness which is a positive state.
Take an activity that most of us at one time or another and most of us regularly engage in and that is driving. However much we enjoy the open road, and there are fewer and fewer of those around these days, I love the A9 in the North of Scotland for this reason, but it can be the most frustrating of activities especially if you are on a tight time schedule.
Traffic jams, especially in rush hour, when everyone else is also trying to get to work, school or home as soon as possible, having to put up with the slow seniors, Sunday drivers or the terrible teenagers all add to the possibility of frustration.
Although we may have an issue with lorry and taxi drivers in my experience it would seem that they are the ones who have come to terms with the vagaries of other vehicles and have managed to reach a state of mind, through daily use, that allows for the maniacs without affecting their own states of mind.
So many take offence at the antics of other drivers which if they did but know it is not affecting the others but certainly denies them their own peace of mind, Well-being and ultimate happiness.
Do you see where this is taking us? Hate is an obvious negative, but the seemingly simple and innocuous frustration has the same effect and as always the cause is in our own minds or a consciousness filled with intolerance, discrimination and racism.
When you understand that affording others the freedom to be, is actually giving yourself that same freedom, and enabling the state of Well-being to exist within you, your attitude to others will then change dramatically.
Your mental attitude is what counts since it is the cause of all else including your emotional and spiritual attitude, and your physical attitude or your body language will follow suit.
Can you see that conversely your negative attitude towards others denies you your own freedom, when as brothers and sisters we should allow each other our own freedoms in whatever sphere our Free-will wishes to take us?
We are constantly reminded that the Free-will of humanity is of the utmost importance, but it often makes you wonder from which direction it comes and where it is going.
The temptation is to react negatively especially to those who provoke those adverse reactions of frustration when in truth we should, if you like, create a story to change your view. Imagine that the driver of the car that just cut you up was a young man taking his wife, who is in labour, to the maternity ward of the local hospital, or your own dear mother having a hard time driving a new car. Would you not forgive their less than perfect, in your view, driving capability?
We need to afford each other a measure of that most precious of commodities called kindness. You know there is a link between peace, harmony and kindness that together lead to Well-being.
It may seem strange to some that you do not react to other bad drivers in fact you seem not to react at all as nothing seems to affect you, but you see that on the pathway to enlightenment, which must eventually embody unconditional love, it might seem to others that your reactions are indifferent to the behaviour of anyone else. In fact what you are doing is allowing others to exercise their own Free-will. It might seem a negative reaction but is in truth the most positive there is and that which Buddha taught before they made him into a god!
In your search for happiness you will bring to yourself the attributes of confidence, freedom, security, kindness and compassion as you follow the words of wisdom of Hanukah and the Angel.